1. General stiffness and awkwardness (DUH!!!! LOL)
2. For no apparent reason, INTJs act friendly and distant toward you, leaving you confused. Just know that during this stage, the INTJ has found you appealing, but don’t know how to step up to the plate in letting you know
3. INTJs will ask around to see if you like them way before they ever express any feelings themselves
4. Will flirt with people they don’t care about, but will find it impossible to flirt with their crush
5. Will research on personality websites to learn how to best understand you
6. INTJs will make an effort to empathize and understand you, instead of being thoughtless in their social interactions with you
7. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. PAY ATTENTION–INTJs will reveal something geeky about themselves to you to test your response. To pass, act casual and/or share something silly about yourself. They want to make sure you won’t run away from their quirkiness
8. INTJs will share stories of vulnerability with people they trust, especially after that person finished sharing something. If they do that, you’re golden
9. They will make you take the Myers-Briggs test online 🙂
10. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. PAY ATTENTION–INTJs would be single if they didn’t have any affection towards you. So, if they’re in a relationship with you, then they definitely love and care for you!
Keep smiling,
Yawatta Hosby
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Thanks for posting 😉 we’re a strange breed to most…even to ourselves a little bit, I guess (?!). 🙂
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Hey Juliet,
LOL. It’s fun being strange or quirky. It’d be boring if everyone was normal 🙂
Keep smiling,
Yawatta
Also we (INTJs) may not be very emotionally expressive but “look” at what we do. Do we spend time with you and enjoy your company? Do we chat/talk with you on a regular basis (non work related)? If we ever hug you … we are definitely close (in emotions) with you.
Hey DeeM,
Exactly! If we make time for you instead of finding excuses, then we care about you. Why can’t that be enough? 🙂
Keep smiling,
Yawatta
This is so true… I’ve held the hands of guys during drama class and such, and acted so friendly to new strangers, but talking to my crush is i.m.p.o.s.s.i.b.l.e.
Me too! I can easily flirt with my guy friends, but I completely shut down in front of my crush. It doesn’t help that I like shy guys. I seem to only attract the charming, outgoing guys lol.
Keep smiling,
Yawatta
I like shy guys too! They’re so cute. But yes, it doesn’t help that I scare them away. OTL…
By the way, I’m an aspiring writer so I like your blog! =)
Thank you! What are you writing?
The funny thing when I read through this article is that, both me and my partner are INTJs. And it is me who actually made him do the online personality test. But I guess, he is more INTJ than me because I was the one who approach him first 🙂
Hi Syaqira. It’s nice to meet you. I love meeting other INTJs. I make people take the online personality test all the time, studying my friends and potential love interests 🙂 Cool beans that you approached your partner first. I’m too shy for that!
Keep smiling,
Yawatta
OMG, these are so practical and true! I had a big laugh about making them take personality test. Because I just did that to my boss a few weeks ago on whom I have developed a crush after 3yrs of working with+observing him and getting myself typed INTJ just 3-4months ago. I guess it can be one of the criteria.
Hi Pat, I can relate to observing my crushes and getting to know about them before even approaching. It’s also fun to get people to take personality tests. I like to ask them to take one and if they say no, then I know they’re an “S” instead of a “N” haha. Merry Christmas and Happy 2024! Keep smiling
BTW, to my surprise, he did take or probably already knew his type (because he is from one of the misunderstood kind type). He is an INFP. That is the only personal thing I could ask him in whole of my work tenure and he responded to it in a blink (that is very very surprising, unlink his work place persona). I am sounding so touchy feely, i think someone who has freshly entered my inner circle after years has invoked this storms of emotions in me, so unlike me otherwise! Happy holidays and happy 2024 to you too!