I love sociology and psychology. As a result, I’m constantly researching to understand myself better. INTJs want to know “the whole” of everything–including ourselves. Research doesn’t just involve encyclopedias and scientific journals. It also includes people you interact with every day.
For example, I asked my Facebook friends to help me with my social experiment (I give myself a new one at least twice a week). They didn’t hesitate to help, which I really appreciated.
My question: What was your impression when you first met me?
Thirty-something friends answered honestly. For the most part, the men thought I had been:
- MY FAVE ANSWER–quiet, but thinking and analyzing everything at same time
- Intelligent, quiet, friendly
- Very sweet person, quiet but never thought shy
- Nice, outspoken, funny, very intelligent…decent
And the women thought I had been:
- MY FAVE ANSWER–quiet, chill, observant, nice
- Quiet, shy, intelligent
- Shy but friendly
- Quiet, reserved, observant
So sweet! I love compliments! This data helped me last night. Even though I’m shy, I still appear friendly instead of standoffish. This was good to know. I thought I gave off negative first expressions since I’m horrible with small talk, a requirement when meeting strangers or acquaintances. Hearing that I give off positive vibes helped me gain confidence.
You see, for my social experiment, I had to leave my comfort zone. I had to be social! No fading in the background like I’m used to hee hee. Last night was my first time at Your Hobby Place.
My writing buddy’s husband taught me how to play Magic after giving me a tour of the store. I’m all for card games that require bluffing, strategic thinking, and luck/skill at the same time.
I was nervous at first because of learning something new. I have a weird phobia of not wanting to disappoint whoever’s teaching me. But once I got over that fear, I had a blast. The guys in the room were very friendly and informative. They totally helped me play my hand. Thanks, I couldn’t have won without them! A guy joked that I had to get used to dealing with math nerds, and I was like “I’ll fit right in.” 🙂
All in all, I’m happy that I didn’t chicken out of going to Your Hobby Place alone. Trust me, my shyness was creating imaginary obstacles so I’d have to cancel. Dang on anxiety–welcome to a shy person’s world.
I’m giving myself five more social experiments. Anyone have any ideas of what I should do next?