How To Write A Lovemaking Scene

Most authors are faced with the question: Should I write sex scenes in my novels or short stories? Many factors come into play. What genre is the story? Will characters making love have an impact on the plot? If you decide to try your hand at it, there are some recommendations you should follow:

  1. Don’t force yourself to write a sex scene outside your comfort zone. Your discomfort will show up in your writing, making your words sound awkward.
  2. Stay away from too much technical and anatomical terms when describing the physical act. Readers don’t need to see “so and so inserted blank into blank”. Find a way to describe the characters movements in a way that helps the scene flow better. Readers want to feel the passion, not get a SexEd lesson.
  3. Focus on the emotional and physical elements. However, please stay away from purple prose. You don’t want your sex scenes to sound corny. Write how the characters are feeling and what they’re doing. Different scenarios will, of course, result in different reactions. For instance, if two people are in love, then their movements will be more sensual and caring towards each other. They’re more likely to participate in foreplay and slowly remove clothing, savoring the touch. If its a quickie between two strangers, probably just lust and passion filled with heat but only thinking of the other person as a piece of meat. Just keep in mind that every sex scene won’t be the same. Please describe it through the character’s mood/emotion at that time frame.
  4. Please no head-hopping. Please stick with only one character’s perspective throughout the scene, so the readers can get lost in the moment. It’s best to choose the one who it’ll affect the most afterward.
  5. Consider where the sex scene fits within your plot. Some genres you can get away with none at all. Others, readers will demand a refund if you don’t give enough. So only have your characters make love if it’s logical to the events occurring in the chapter or section of your book. For example, if two students are in the middle of taking a test, then it’s probably not the best time to insert a sex scene in that chapter.
  6. Last but not least, research more tips on how to write a lovemaking/sex scene besides just reading this list. There’s so much useful information out there to be absorbed by writers.

Are there any writers who would like to share tips on how they approach sex scenes in their novels or short stories? Or anyone know of any useful websites to read through that’s helpful on this subject?

Keep smiling,

Yawatta Hosby